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No, Thanks! How to Reject a Job Offer (Like the Professional You Are)

Whatever you do...don’t ghost. It just isn’t classy.

Stephanie Olsen
Contributor

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There are many reasons why you may have to turn down a job offer, but usually it’s because you’ve accepted a better one. You may have chosen the other job because it’s the role of your dreams, but often it’s because of practical issues like a better salary and benefits, or the employer better supports your values and career goals. 

The reason doesn’t really matter: It’s how you decline the job offer that’s really important. And something you should never do is “ghost” the company or recruiter.

Ghosting is a problem, and it won’t help your career

This is becoming an issue that staffing firms are seeing more of lately, says Lauren Casta from OfficeTeam, and it involves everything from applicants dropping out of the interview process to not showing up on their first day of work. She talks about a corporate client that called her after a new hire never appeared on the first day of the $65,000 job they had accepted. This was after going through a six-week interview process, during which time the applicant never indicated that they were considering another offer.

Anything is better than ghosting, she says. Whether by a phone call, email, or text, let the recruiter know if you’re no longer interested, even if it’s awkward for you. If you ghost at any time during the interview process, you stand the risk of hurting your reputation as a professional and even being blackballed in your industry. People talk.

Reject a job offer as soon as you know you won’t be taking it

Don’t procrastinate, advises Resume Booster founder Austin Kelly. By letting the employer know your decision quickly, you’re helping them move forward in their own process. Your reason for taking another offer doesn’t have to be too specific, Kelly adds. Telling them that you’ve accepted something else or that this offer isn’t quite the right fit is sufficient. If you felt a connection with the hiring manager even though the role wasn’t for you or if you particularly like the company, offer to stay in touch. Having that person in your professional network might be of value to both of you in future.

Read more: How to Accept a Job Offer: When to Negotiate & What to Say

How to turn down a job offer in three steps

Career coach Madeline Mann says there are three steps to turning down a job offer: 1) show gratitude, 2) clearly decline the offer, and 3) extend an invitation to talk about it. If you’ve got a call scheduled anyway, decline over the phone; otherwise an email is fine. Offering to discuss your decision is polite and can salvage the relationship between you and the recruiter. For example, during your conversation, consider elaborating on how the other opportunity fit your lifestyle better at this time, how they better support your professional goals, or how they are more committed to equal pay.

Remember, the fact that you received the job offer in the first place means that the company got to know you, like you, and trust you over the interview period. You probably spent several hours with them, and got to know several of their people too. That’s why career coach Don Georgevich prefers a phone call over an email when you’re declining an offer: It’s more personal.

Be kind and considerate, he says. Thank them for the time they spent with you and the opportunity they gave you. Let them know that you’re declining because the other position means a little bit more to you right now in your career. Also tell them that if your paths cross in the future, you’d hope to be considered by them.

How to rescind an acceptance

Sometimes a better offer comes through just minutes after you’ve accepted the first. The steps to rescind a job offer you’ve accepted are very similar to declining a job offer. While it’s obviously best to never accept a job until you’re absolutely sure you want it, engineering career coach Diane Karch-Osowski says that’s not always possible.

When you are rescinding an acceptance, let them know immediately either in person or by a phone call and follow up by email. She says to remember to express gratitude. Also, learn from the situation: Next time you’re interviewing with two companies, make sure you have all the offers in front of you before making that final decision. It might mean asking one for a bit more time or asking the other if they can speed up their process.

Read more: How to Negotiate Your Salary (For Career Newbies & Industry Vets)

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